F is for Flexibility (Not Force): Why Transitions Shouldn’t Hurt

Transitions are some of the hardest moments in a child’s day—and they often unfold in very public, high-pressure environments: classrooms, grocery stores, playgrounds, bedtime routines, or while trying to get out the door in the morning.

An adult says, “Okay, time to go!” and suddenly the child is on the floor, screaming. Or they freeze. Or bolt. Or collapse in tears.

What’s happening in that moment isn’t defiance—it’s dysregulation. It’s not about refusing to follow directions. It’s about a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe making that shift, especially without enough time, context, or support.